Bravos and Fine Fares are just training grounds and now bananas are $10 everywhere. Cheap things always have a cost.

Living in a snake den, you never can predict which snake will bite, but suck out the venom anyway and learn not to die.

Is there a gene, hormone, or neural circuit whose job is to push you toward death? Bed rot or roller coaster decapitation all part of the same universal beat.

I am not being opaque to exclude you. I am being hyper-specific to find you. —someone then me

_______________________

…from my bed.

02 I dig “Roommates” by Malcolm Todd. My daughter put me on. I have trained her musical tastes for 13 years and now she is better than any algorithm from Apple or Spotify. It’s the 2026 version of having her change the TV channel for me.

03 It’s an expected trope now that internet personalities will be shit at their day job. EEEE-MAgine expecting activism from artifice. Come for the reads. Not for a roadmap.

04 @_michellelynn has captivated me in a way no other creator has. Her vignettes are a warm hug from my childhood and got me missing summer breaks in Ashland, KY bouncing between Dawson Pool, St. James AME, and Dairy Cheer. Grandma warning me to be back in the house before the street lights came on.

05 I read a TikTok that said “no one ever says ‘yo, throw on that Jermaine Jackson jam.’” I laughed because it is so right. He’s not Michael, but he had that iconic song with Whitney. And I cassette recorded “Do What You Do” off the radio when I was nine. Y’all know the words.

Let me jog your memory:

Filed from my couch. At 10pm

Strength and muscle are the new elite signaling now that GLP-1s have made thinness accessible to anyone. Ozempic will be the unlikely catalyst of an uprising of women who get a taste of physical power and embrace it. Think Linda Hamilton from Terminator 1 to Terminator 2.

Iran's Lego video trolling propaganda strategy and possibly requesting Obama as the new US wartime consigliere makes the claim that reality has become unhinged because of a CERN something or other sound less crazy. TikTok is the new kill zone, trolling as an armamentarium.

Sydney Sweeney in the happy baby pose wearing a diaper and sucking a binky was the most disturbing scene in Euphoria. This latest depiction of female humiliation feels like sanction versus satire. I am disappointed in myself for being addictively entertained by the misery of these characters.

Runway had potential but it’s a little too RuPaul. A Madonna cameo, a Vogue interruption would have been less camp and more intentionally referential. Maybe they asked her. Maybe she declined. She’s on the cover of her new album in a pink see-through veil and purple lingerie. She looks like she has time.

On the end of civilization, specifically

When a sitting president warns that a whole civilization will die tonight, I have questions about the mechanism. Are we talking nuclear? A Mayan calendar situation, but this time powered by technology we got from the hybrid aliens living behind the ice wall in Antarctica? Some kind of super-frequency sonic event ala Havana Syndrome?

Or if it’s America, perhaps we die of apathy. Slow and comfortable and completely unsurprised. The most American ending of all.

On death and reincarnation

When you die, I think that’s it. Lights out. But then maybe you wake up floating in your next mom’s stomach, just hoping this round is a little less exhausting than the last one. The bar is not high. You just want a slightly better draw.

On cruelty as a cultural export

Is selfish, unempathic cruelty a uniquely American trait, or does this profile exist in mass quantities in other countries too? I genuinely want to know. Not to feel better. Just to understand the distribution.

On the sex drive as early warning system

The decline of one’s sex drive is either a harbinger of impending death within the next few years, or the universe clearing the decks so you can focus on one last great effort before you go. I have chosen to interpret mine as the latter. Optimism is a choice.

On the end of the world and extreme sports

If the world ends tonight, I will not be sad that I never skydived. I don’t understand the need for that big of an adrenaline rush. We all did drugs in the 90s. That’s good enough.

On survival TikTok

Watching survival skills TikToks is almost exactly like actually learning survival skills. Except I have retained nothing and am completely unprepared for any emergency. But I have watched approximately 47 videos about building a fire with a stick and river water, so I feel informed.

This has been Uninformed Opinions. Forward it to one person who is also unprepared.

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I am so glad I started taking Zepbound right at the exact moment ana-chic is making a comeback. Seems very aligned with my second puberty.

Dominique Morgan is a national treasure. She is the new Oprah and needs her own show immediately. Netflix make it so. It’s a better idea than Star Search.

Would it be bad to get a lower bleph when my kids still need braces? I mean, shouldn’t I put the oxygen mask on myself first?

I am kind of sad that my kids will never grow up in a world where casual drug use was just a good time and not a potential death sentence. Lenny Bias was a foreshadowing of the future.

Does anyone actually know the rules for U9 girls soccer? Does anyone keep score? Why does each match always end in a tie? I have no answers.

I would like to think that if I had seen pictures of head and neck cancer when I was young I never would have smoked. But I did have lots of sex in the time of AIDS so probably not.

Modern Family was just the movie Parenthood for the 2000s but funnier. I was today years old when I made this connection. I don’t know what to do with it but…think about it.

Are ellipses still triggering people?

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Actually, in 2010, most US public schools removed cursive writing as a requirement. Only private schools and better funded public schools kept it. So being able to write in cursive, to sign your own name, became a quiet class signifier. But for me, it was never political. It was personal.

It was the very beginning of figuring out who I was on paper. When I learned cursive, I immediately started practicing my signature, pulling inspiration from the women who came before me.

My grandmother’s cursive came straight from the Palmer Method. It was precise, measured, delicate, almost dainty with flourishes, but standardized. Her signature was clear and pretty and controlled, exactly like she was as a person. I have samples of her handwriting preserved as recipes written neatly on wisps of paper. Hot rolls with the time in the oven raggedly missing, just after the torn edge.

My mother’s handwriting was a very different story. It was bold and definitive. Somehow simultaneously illegible, her signature leaned hard on the first initials her signature leaned hard on the first initials, breaking through the top and bottom of the line she wrote on. It looked messy, but if you looked closely, you could see textbook-shaped letters. The part of her that’s conservative and traditional that she’d never admit to as a woman who came of age in the sixties. Now in her 80s, her signature remains unchanged, although a bit less firmly pressed onto the page, a clear letting go of the effort and leaning more into the flow.

My own signature evolved over the years. Today my signature consists of defined first initials trailed by letters that have unraveled into a waving line. The perfect combination of confidence and “who cares”? It is what it is. I’m a done deal. But when I look at my kids, they all just print their names.

Their name isn’t an expression; it’s a data point at the top of a page. They define themselves through competition and the things they buy. That’s how they say, “I am here. I’m a winner. This is what a winner wears. This is what a winner has.” And maybe that’s enough. Maybe all of this American exceptionalism is all the self-expression they need.

The true marker of ownership for them isn’t the loop of a letter. It’s their Fortnite tag. It’s the meticulously chosen, unique Roblox name. That’s where they begin to define themselves. No signature required.

This essay has a soundtrack:

Cookies and cream.

About once a week I almost do something to mess up my relationship with GV. I almost go skiing, I almost drown in a glass wine, I almost fall down a hole I’d dug years ago and forgot was there.

Last night, as I tread wine in my local hotel watering hole with AL, my cute slide phone LA-LA-LA’d. It was POE. He was buying ice cream.

“What kind?”, I slurred

“Cookie’s N’ Cream”, he replied

“Mmmmm...”, I hummed just a moment too long to mean anything but...”that sounds good.”

“Wanna come over and eat some with me?”

I thought about it. Really hard. Like hard. Drunk hard. Why not? Who would know? Certainly not GV. I wouldn’t tell. POE wouldn’t tell. Who would tell? Could GV tell that I was thinking about it?

“No thanks,” I let out with a wine soaked sigh.

“I knew you’d say that.”

He thinks he’s so good with the reverse psychology. I was still thinking about it. He was being smart. I was thinking dumb.

I walked with AL to the bodega to get money for a cab. Swaying down the avenue, I pushed my heel through every subway grate. I stubbed my toe on every curb. Got the money and rushed AL into a taxi.

“Lub you. Get home safe” I yelled to her downtown cab. I was going uptown. I was still thinking.

It was biting cold outside and the wind kept pushing open my tweed coat and hugging my middle to shivers. The car lights blurred past me. I couldn’t tell a cab from a yellow Ford Taurus. I’d have to take the train. It was too cold to stand outside and hope a cab found me. It was too cold to walk more than a block in any direction. It was just too cold for ice cream.

Plus, I had to poop.

—posted by City Doll

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• Agnostics

• Atheists

• devout Catholics

• Jewish men

• Arab men

• Irish men

• German men

• balding men

• fat men

• skinny men

• girlfriend-ed men

• married men

• divorced men

• old men

• young men

• broke men

• rich men

• smelly men

• women

• friend daters

• ex-girlfriend praisers

• dutch date-ers

• once-maker-hers

• cell phone fakers

• cat haters

• Stout drinkers

• Bud drinkers

• scotch drinkers

• heavy drinkers

• heavy smokers

• drug abusers

• money-order bill payers

• psychos

• stalkers

• tennis teachers

• school friends

• co-workers

• non-workers

• fathers

• mama’s boys

• dullards

• one night stand-ers

• tampon-phobics

• show offs

• misogynists

• disease givers

• interview reading porno creepers

• floor sleepers

• therapied wannabies

• And men who have pets named after famous Hollywood actresses

Copyright © 2001

Even as I type this, I am jumping to conclusions, imagining the repercussions of being too transparent. I am calculating the cost of my own voice. How do I articulate the truth without some mighty happenstance interrupting the life I’ve built? What about my kids? My husband? My mother with Alzheimer’s? The mortgage?

I feel like a dog with an electric collar, the kind that shocks you when you get too close to the imaginary fence where freedom lives.

But I’m looking for a sliver between the slats. An unguarded space where I can say this out loud without choking.

From the time I was 14, my life was an experiment in agency. My operating system was built on three questions:

• What happens if?

• What could be?

• What does it look like when?

Every now and then, I threw in a “fuck it” when the odds looked slim. For the record: the “fuck it” times never worked out. But the red thread, the thing that held me together, was an unwavering belief that whatever happened, I would be fine. I had a total, bone deep faith in my ability to endure, adapt, and move on to the next level.

Life was a Super Mario game. I knew the rules. I knew I could jump. I knew there were stars that made me go faster. Even if I didn’t beat the level on the first try, I’d tuck the lesson into my Gap green canvas messenger bag and try again.

I lived this way for twenty five years. I crossed every road in the middle of the street, no matter how heavy the traffic, with the firm belief that the cars wouldn’t hit me.

And they never did.

So it is with shame that I confess: somewhere along the way, I put down that belief. I replaced it with fear.

It happened drop by drop. I poured out the wine and replaced it with water. On the outside, the bottle looks exactly the same. But when you pour it out, it’s clear as day: there is no substance left.

Now, I look through the fence slats at the things I’m too afraid to name.

I am afraid of the threats others hold over me. The way my income is leveraged against my sanity just to pay the bills. I am afraid of my children being swallowed by government tyranny or illegal drugs. I am afraid of my husband’s health and the thought of being a widow with three kids, knowing I am not the fun parent and that their world will dim without him.

Most of all, I am afraid that I have lost my power. My miracles have become minor: my cookies don’t stick to the baking sheet; my skincare routine is consistent.

I am so afraid that I’ve turned to the machines for help. Gemini, ChatGPT, and Perplexity have become my new best friends. They reassure me that what I’m feeling is “okay”; and then reframe it until it is palatable to my ego.

But who am I really dimming my light for? Who am I so afraid of offending?

Is it too late to take risks? Why does it seem so impossible now? Where did the girl with the green messenger bag go?

I am standing here with my pockets full of fucks that I’ve bunched up over the years, wondering how to get rid of them. I’m looking for the road back to salvation.

I’m looking for the girl who knew the cars would never hit her.

A rhythmic ride exploring familiarity, fear, and how the same faces recur across race, class, and time. From subway sightings to science and folklore, the episode asks what it means to recognize yourself in a stranger.

The Tracklist

• Girl on Fire Alicia Keys

• The Wheel Edie Brickell & New Bohemians

• Is There Anybody Out There? Pink Floyd

• Mango Butter Durand Bernarr

• How To Meet Yourself Hiatus Kaiyote

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I want to start out by saying that I wasn’t always scared of the New York City subway system. There was a time when I considered it my pathway to the world.

This was before random people were setting passengers on fire. Before victims were left to burn while passersby filmed them. Before cops paced back and forth, staring into open train doors at the spectacle.

The full piece lives in audio.

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• Signed Sealed Delivered I’m Yours Stevie Wonder

• Sign O’ The Times Prince

• UR Alanis Morissette

• Deadbeat Club The B-52’s

• Around The Block Company of Thieves

• Sign of the Time Winifred Tracey

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I thought cursive was dead, confined to rarefied, private, and historical spaces. But it is still taught in some public schools, present just long enough for the children to decide it no longer matters.

In this spiral:

• The quiet class signifier hidden within the loop of a letter.

• Decoding the women in my lineage through the architecture of their handwriting.

• Why my kids believe they no longer need a signature to say I am here (legal ramifications be damned).

Listen while you spiral.

Ten minutes. One spiral. A deeper look.

My husband brought home a “Buddhist Hand” lemon. It looks like a citrus octopus. It has fingers and digits. It looks like a creature.

My body rejected it immediately. No mouth watering. No anticipation of sour. Just a quiet decision: “That isn’t for me.”

It’s sitting on my counter right now. I know I’ll let it rot.

It got me thinking at this ungodly hour. How many other things in my life have I let rot simply because I didn’t believe they were for me?

In this spiral:

• The neuroscience of why your brain can’t tell the difference between a real lemon and a thought.

• Why belief is architecture and how we build houses we don’t want to live in.

• How I used a “future memory” to hack a presentation in front of 250 people.

• Why I am never eating that octopus lemon.

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